Who Am I?

The animal sense of belonging is long gone.

Since humans began to think, we developed ideas and beliefs to feel safe and secure in our abstract and physical reality. But now, the mutually confirmed beliefs and identity of our traditional cultures have collapsed.

Nowadays, individuals must find their own safety.

Finding and Believing in Ourselves

Over this last century, even the secure identity of inherited family trade and work skills has vanished.

Now we have to 'find ourselves' on a practical and spiritual level.

The main modern challenge to all educators and parents, is encouraging us to discover and develop what we want to do and who we want to be.

Being a fulfiled individual and believing in ourselves are modern cultural ideals.

Higher Beliefs

Some people are ambitious. And some of these search for higher purposes and deeper reasons.

Traditonally this took the form of a super almighty focal point like God. These days, new-age gurus talk about finding the true self or the higher self – a deeper sense of self in a state of pure and universal consciousness.

And this was inevitable ever since we started developing our individuality, it was clear that self-development and self-realisation would become the ideals for perfection.

And there may well be a higher self, but whatever we find is going to be largely a product of focused activity, the way of sensing which got us lost in this jungle of beliefs in the first place.

Focused thought is so self obsessed. The nature of focusing is to concentrate on small selected focal points, and it has developed its own tunnel vision in the abstract world.

Purpose and Identity

Finding ourselves, believing in ourselves, self fulfilment, and self realisation all sound wonderful, but how can we find or know ourselves without using all our sensory faculties?

We just don't recognise any alternative to our focused perspective. We're focusing so intensively, we don't remember that there's any other way of sensing. Focused sensing is blind to paramic reality.

ParamicPanoramic sensing, the parasympathetic nervous system, and the lower brain. See The Parama Systems for details.
reality is safe and whole, being and doing without knowing or needing to know.

What it lacks, is a sense of individual purpose and identity. And also any need for a purpose and identity.

Our identity won't disappear, our sense of purpose and meaning in life won't vanish, it'll just be secondary for a moment, not compulsively repeating its own habitual routines and needs all the time.

We need these brief paramic periods like every other animal. Other animals need them to be safe in actual reality, we need them to be safe in our abstract reality.

We need to be able to forget about ourselves, break the habitual obsessive background thinking about ourselves, at any time, spontaneously and naturally.

And then i'm not sure what could happen. It opens up new worlds of possibilities, and we will always exist in a far deeper way than we can define.

But what we are, and what we think we are, is being incredibly limited by what we can sense by focusing. Paramic reality is an actual vivid reality full of feelings, changes, colours and life. Focused sensing is blind to this way of experiencing life and our essential being.

The individual and social situation we've created with this self-obsessed focused box we're stuck in is crazy.

Modern Social Reality

Some ancient and new-age gurus have undoubtably contacted a 'higher self' – but it's blatantly obvious that communally we find it too difficult to contact this 'true deeper self'.

So it's not our essential nature which dominates modern social principles – it's how we identify ourselves.

The justifiable and even legally acknowledged sense of our individual self, is our abstract image, our idea of who we are, who we think we are.

Our abstract beliefs and their outward display have become dominant over our actual reality.

It's ridiculous... we're communally making our own stress.

Collective Behavioural Dysfunction

All our social codes of work and play, of etiquette, mating habits, and the possibilties of how to break those codes, have recently, all rapidly diversified and multiplied. A chaotic state in our herd mentality – our collective social identity – has developed.

And now, if we want to achieve a society of individuals, with mutual respect for all beliefs then we need to follow Gandhi and Mandela, we have to learn their lessons on forgiveness and mutual respect.

Without embracing the entirity of humanity, in sickness and in health, our modern collective psychology lacks central security. These are all familiar ideas, the clichés of modern social thinking. So we created laws to protect our individual rights and integrate us.

And our modern liberal thinking to contain the diversity of beliefs – rather than infallible rulers forcing a consensus of ideas – is a great step for civilisation.

Rejoicing in the rich tapestry of life is considered a modern social skill. It's something the best of us aim at socially, it's become one of our cultural beliefs.

And this is truly the best option our exclusively focused understanding of life can offer.

The Contradiction

By exclusive focusing our culture has produced an ego-centred form of individuality. In this condition it feels like an effort to be selflessly empathic. And that's why we needed to create morality, and then ethics and now laws.

Paramic reality is an awareness of everything happening, how on earth could we ever hope to develop an empathy for everything without being aware of it.

Paramic reality is a sense of the attitude, the feeling of other people, the speed they move and their shape and size, volume and tone – it never even considers how they identify on an abstract level.

The Rich Tapestry

Gandhi and Mandela were wonderful, but they can't help us anymore. Chaos is preprogrammed.

The colours in our rich tapestry, and the groups within groups, are always multiplying. It's not going to stop suddenly. There will always be an increasing amount of punks, emos, hippies, straights.

There will always be more crazy conspiracy theories, political lies, influencers displaying new forms of religious and political extremism, the list is endless. And all the new trends and their derivations are rapidly becoming even more sophsticated, clever, and more individualistic.

And we accept it, even when we don't like it we accept this chaos is happening and think there's nothing we can do about it.

But this or something like it is what we could expect from a culture which only looks for security and safety by focusing. Even exclusively and intensely training it for at least 10 formative years – forcing all paramic sensitivity out of existance.

And even when, in a paramic moment of inspiration, there is a new idea, it must be processed and understood, connected and expressed by focused thought. .

Words and Images

Consider how important words and writing have become in the modern civilised world. Among animals it's the actual sounds which are relevant, but for humans it's the abstract meaning of those sounds.

Our modern culture would probably have discovered paramic sensing earlier if all the dyslexics, autists and people who think in colours, pictures, and music, were not forced through the tube of 2 hour long written examinations.

Our rational abstract education system, like our cultural ideals, is well meant but perverse.

Now even pictures are forced through the abstract reality tube. digram 2 rows of 3 showing 4/6thsI saw a question for 7 year olds to demonstrate – on a rectangular diagram of 6 boxes (3x2) – that 2/3rds. is not always equivalent to 4/6ths. The abstract cleverness defies common sense.

And then there's little Bobby, who regardless his/her biology, is encouraged to make a free gender choice. Then whatever you think you are, IS the deciding point.

Our self image, what we imagine we are, how we want to be recognised, has the highest value and validity. But Bobby is only one example. Quite generally in modern society, projected images are the form in which life is recognised.

There is a point to be made about self-image with the development of industrial mirrors around 1850. But a century later we could record and pre-record our reflected image.

It's so normal that we don't notice but television through to social media, are abstract images. We project reality onto a screen. We can't touch it or smell it.

What we're looking at and listening to, are representations of reality which are constantly beoming more abstract.

In 2011 imaging filters started on Snapchat and Instagram. And now AI is creating a new range of pictures, models, and music, in an abstract reality which is even more fascinating, amazing, and compelling.

And we think it's real because it's so common, and so many people use it that it becomes real, but it's only a representation of reality which has been designed for and with our focused senses and focused abstract thoughts.

And again the point is, we accept it even if we don't like it, we accept this is happening and think there's nothing we can do about it... and there is nothing we can do from a focused perspective.

Scientific Reality

We try to develop scientific reality in an attempt to find facts in our abstract reality. We do this to give ourselves something 'real' and 'true', to believe in and hold onto. We do this by focusing even more specifically through larger telescopes and smaller microscopes.

Einstein told us everything is energy and light. Perhaps in another million years humans will evolve to perceive themselves as a 'real self' full of light and energy.

But it's ridiculous, right now we could be doing what every animal does, experiencing the safety and wholeness of paramic reality.

Image Worship

We are entering a modern new-age of image worship, an individual form of our forefathers' idol worship.

And this has happened because focusing needs focal points, thought needs images, and we automatically developed beliefs.

So now, we have an abstract image of ourselves, which we try to believe in and then celebrate openly.

There is a wonderful variety of psychological conditions which this generates; and we could spend centuries analysing all the curiosities.

But the central energy and confusion is still coming from the age old question of "Who am I?".

With paramic sensing there is no thought, no question as to why. We can just experience being. And it is the way all other animals find a sense of wholeness and reassurance about their safety.

We have developed so successfully as a species, that we don't need to worry about the buzzards and wolves... we don't have to run away, but we do have to just be still and directy aware for a few moments.

But we're habitually running away, always wanting to be doing something, it's our learnt traditional behaviour.

We Succeeded. We Can Stop Now.

The tunnel vision of our human experiment has become a mad scientist who is still looking for reasons and safety through focused eyes.

Everything we do, is to do with focusing. We focus on all the things we want. We focus on how to get them. And then we focus on repeating the process. This is the nature of wanting and learnt behaviour - it needs focusing on in order to repeat it.

And now, we are overwhelmed by the self-perpetuating momentum of the repetitions inherent in ever increasing focused learning. We are overfocusing.

And it's all such a hopeless view of modern civilised man that it would be unmentionable, except for the solution that if we want safety, peace, and a feeling of wholeness and wholesomeness, then we need to learn how animals do it.

Securing Our Survival

The key to solving our basic cultural and individual chaos, is to realise that in order to survive, all other animals coordinate or alternate almost all of their focused activities with periods of paramic sensing.

We desperately need short interruptions to the continuous mechanics of the ego and its projections, short experiences of pure paramic receptivity to interrupt the subject-object consciousness, the making-thinking-knowing consciousness.

Paramic reality is a moment of being without the constraints of individuality or need for purpose. Without wanting to do anything except be paramic. Simply feeling the intense connectedness with our environment. Just being.


Paramic awareness is the natural, tried and tested, counterbalance to focusing, and the cure for overfocusing.

We need a purpose in life. We need focal points, but we need to learn to coordinate or alternate them with paramic sensing. Paraming makes focused activity secure, safe, and reliable.

We're not using all our basic and natural sensory abilities to experience the world and our lives. We have inadvertently suppressed part of our basic awareness, and intelligence. We have a limited experience and understanding of life.

The paramic experience isn't a new religion, we don't have to believe in it for it to work. It's not a belief it's a skill, it's something animals just do without even thinking about it. It's a natural way of being.

It's been tried and tested by animals for billions of years – it is obviously part of a self-perpetuating and successful method to survive. Every animal uses it. Every animal except humans.

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