The Involuntary Individual

Humans are not by nature individualists and egoists. Throughout human history we've lived for an 'ultra ego in the sky', and had a deep – almost animal – sense of group belonging in a community.

And it seems to me that for thousands of centuries, our common beliefs supported an individual and cultural priority of doing things for the common good.

But, these days apart from those who we love (and true love is a rare commodity), we have become our own most important focal point.

There are a lot of philosophical discussions about if the self and it's ego, is illusory or real.

The practical point is that our modern sense of individuality is unintentional.

The feelings and ideas we have about 'self and others', are a natural result of focusing with our senses and our minds.

The Focused Human

Focusing is by nature a selected specific narrow perspective, it separates life into specific bits. One of the consequences of this is, that in order to find a sense of wholeness, we must make associations to join the bits together again in relationships.

This approach to life is embedded in our thinking. It is understood in every sentance we think; subjects must have objects. Our psychological sciences emphasise the individual; our sociological ideas stress the importance of relationships between individuals.

These ideas are confirmed by almost everyone. It's part of our herd mentality, probably the only thing we still all agree on.

It's so normal that it seems to all make sense. But it's ridiculous.

We have created a fascinating and ludicrous situation which no animal and no human in any previous culture has ever experienced, or even imagined.

Our modern appreciation of the individual is a result of over developing our senses exclusively in their focusing capacity, without even any acknowledgement of the
paramicPanoramic sensing, the parasympathetic nervous system, and the lower brain. See The Parama Systems for details.
experience. Our modern egoism is unintentional and involuntary. It's life from only one specific perspective.

And once we started to develop the self fulfiling sensation of individuality, it created an energy of self empowerment. It gave us hope for our own pleasure and security, it created something we feel as want, it promised purpose and reasons. And so we repeated the process. This is the vicious circle of our individuality.

We may sometimes try to broaden our perspectives, to explore new ideas and beliefs, but we're always trapped in the same old box, just looking for new things to focus on, new purposes and intentions, new things to want.

Repetition and Greed

Learnt behaviour and wanting – always repeat exponentially. This leads to increasing specialisation and accumulation. This applies to the things we possess, our ideas, and our sense of ourselves.

I'm not only saying that the sensation of the modern ego is a mental imbalance. It's a chronic condition, meaning it gets worse with time. And it's pathologic, in the sense of it being uncontrollable, compulsive almost addictive.

Greed and narrow-minded stupidity are extreme symptoms of the illness.

We are dominated by focused sensing and thought. We've become blind to the paramic way of sensing reality.

We are overfocusing and we are oblivious to the way any sensible animal would react, by stopping still for long enough to notice what's going on around us.

Direct awareness with our eyes and ears open is an essential part of wholesome living.

Paramic sensing is the natural balance to focusing, and the easiest quickest and most effective cure for overfocusing.

What we are as humans is so much more than just our focalised individuality.

Wholeness Without Wanting

Paramic sensing doesn't cause wanting. Vulnerable animals can't want anything at the same time as being paramically aware.

When we open our eyes and ears paramically – fully alert and ready to respond at the first instant – we can't want at the same time, we can't even develop a constructive thought.

Constructive thought is only possible with focusing. This feeling which is 'me' is being understood exclusively with focused constructive thought. Me is a feeling, not an idea.

It's vital to be able to stop thinking for a moment and sense life in its selfless wholeness. The paramic experience is one of selfless wholeness.

We Focus on Focusing

Our thinking is lost in fantasy. We're trying to solve the problems by using the same methods which got us into this mess in the first place.

We think we need to find ourselves and believe in ourselves. But these are all consequences of focused sensing – focusing always needs to find focal points.

If we ever think about our paramic senses, we'd conclude that they're irrelevant and useless. We don't need them any more to save us from mortal danger – but they're still vital to our psychology.

Gurus tell us to let go of posessions and thoughts. But what we are blindly and unintentionally holding onto is focusing.

If our teachers recognised the importance of paramic sensing, they would probably tell us we need to let go of focusing, or to focus on not focusing... in simple reality we just have to start paraming.

This is another way of looking for answers... this is another way of looking at everything... just stop thinking, it's easy for a few seconds with paramic listening... then open your eyes, really, just open them.

We have forgotten this natural behaviour.

The paramic experience has no concept of individual success and achievement, no sense of individual pride, there's not even a strong sense of self.

It's not really a state of interdependence, that's only how we can describe it from a focused perspective. From its own perspective, it's simply directly aware, here and now.

Squirrels Don't Have Paradoxes

Philosophers may think this implies a form of duality or paradox, but all such ideas are the fruits of focused sensing.

This isn't a theory... it's clearly demonstrated by every other animals' behaviour – it's practical – watch any squirrel stop for a few seconds on the lawn. Perceiving in a paramic way is itself the solution to the problems caused by constantly focusing.

This isn't a belief... Animals don't believe in it to do it. It's a skill and we're neglecting it.

Expectantly, pre-emptively waiting for any possibility of a sign – still, receptive, anticipating, open and waiting.

Every other minute, every animal except the human, uses paramic sensing as an integral part of their everyday existance.

The connection only needs last a few seconds at a time, but we need it, regularly, in order to be and stay psychologically safe.

Feeling psychologically safe, whole, alive, and real, all at the same time, only happen occasionally by coincidence or luck, as when being in love, when sensing in a focused way – but they do so always and naturally when paraming.

We have forgotten this way of sensing the world and being in it. Mankind has lost part of how we always sensed the world around us, part of how we managed to survive for millions of years.

We need focal points in order to get anywhere and do anything, but for our focused activity to be safe and wholesome we must alternate it regularly with the paramic experience, as all other animals do.

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